Working with Conflict and Making Requests
Chapters 48 and 49
Venerable Thubten Chodron 
An Open-Hearted Life 
Apr 3, 2022 Part of a series of talks based on An Open-Hearted Life given at Sravasti Abbey’s monthly Sharing the Dharma Day starting in April 2017. Co-written with clinical psychologist Dr. Russell Kolts, the book offers practical Buddhist and Western psychological approaches to developing compassion.
- The mindful-emotion traffic light metaphor
- Reflection: Using the mindful-emotion traffic light
- Discriminating our needs and wants when making requests
- Making requests respectfully and politely
- Communicating with care
- Fostering cooperation and avoiding extreme measures
- Reflection: Making requests
An Open-Hearted Life 46: Working with Conflict and Making Requests (download)
A guided meditation led prior to the talk can be found here.
Venerable Thubten Chodron
Venerable Chodron emphasizes the practical application of Buddha’s teachings in our daily lives and is especially skilled at explaining them in ways easily understood and practiced by Westerners. She is well known for her warm, humorous, and lucid teachings. She was ordained as a Buddhist nun in 1977 by Kyabje Ling Rinpoche in Dharamsala, India, and in 1986 she received bhikshuni (full) ordination in Taiwan. Read her full bio.
