Speaking Wisely and Kindly
How to use our speech to create virtue and cultivate harmonious relationships with others.
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The Four Nonvirtues of Speech (Taiwan 2018)
Short talks recorded at Luminary Temple in Taiwan on how to use our speech to create virtue by avoiding lying, harsh speech, divisive speech, and idle talk.
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Venerable Thubten Chodron Hurtful words, healing words
Being mindful of our speech so as to prevent ourselves from harming others.
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Antidotes for the complaining mind
Applying antidotes to our habit of complaining increases tolerance and helps others.
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Speaking of the faults of others
Belief in the faults of others and ourselves lead to missed opportunities for love.
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Disadvantages of criticizing bodhisattvas
Cultivating compassion by differentiating between the person and his or her actions.
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Connecting with those we disagree with
Looking at the ways we can open our heart and connect with someone for whom…
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The first nonvirtue of speech: Lying (part 1)
The Buddha pointed out four types of speech that we should avoid, the first of…
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The first nonvirtue of speech: Lying (part 2)
We have to observe the situations in which we tell lies. If we have done…
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The second nonvirtue of speech: Divisive speech (par...
Divisive speech often arises when others do what we don’t like, and we seek out…
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The second nonvirtue of speech: Divisive speech (par...
Divisive speech often arises in the workplace, when a group of people gets together to…
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The third nonvirtue of speech: Harsh speech (part 1)
Harsh speech includes criticizing, denigrating, and humiliating others. Or we may scold others to “guide”…
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The third nonvirtue of speech: Harsh speech (part 2)
When adults scare children by saying there are ghosts, this is a form of harsh…
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The third nonvirtue of speech: Harsh speech (part 3)
Harsh speech sometimes happens in close relationships. In a marital argument, both parties feel hurt…
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