The snake of jealousy
The snake of jealousy
A Crown Ornament for the Wise, a hymn to Tara composed by the First Dalai Lama, requests protection from the eight dangers. These talks were given after the White Tara Winter Retreat at Sravasti Abbey in 2011.
- Jealousy is a painful mind that contracts our hearts
- We pray for all sentient beings to be happy, but can’t bear another’s good fortune
- We should let go of this mind that is counter to our Dharma values
The Eight Dangers 07: The snake of jealousy, part 1 (download)
The snake of jealousy:
Lurking in its dark pit of ignorance,
Unable to bear the wealth and excellence of others,
It swiftly injects them with its cruel poison:
The snake of jealousy—please protect me from this danger!
That’s jealousy, isn’t it?
“Lurking in its dark pit of ignorance.” Based on ignorance—the pit of ignorance—then jealousy—the snake of jealousy, you know?
“Unable to bear the wealth and excellence of others.” So that’s what jealousy is. It’s the mind that is unable to bear anything good happening to other people. It’s jealous, it’s envious, it says, “They shouldn’t have it, I should have it. And I’m going to do what I can to get it away from them and take it myself.”
And jealousy is so painful. Isn’t it? I mean, really painful. Because it completely contracts our hearts. Here we pray “may all sentient have happiness and its causes,” and they have some good condition and we say, “I can’t stand it!” Yes? So it’s completely the opposite of the four immeasurables and what we’re trying to cultivate in the four immeasurables. And it’s incredibly painful.
And then motivated by jealousy we do and say all sorts of amazing things, don’t we? I mean, think of how many crimes are created out of jealousy. How much confusion in relationships is created out of jealousy. In an office place, in a workplace, colleagues getting jealous of each other and, “They got the promotion, I should have it … the boss smiled at them, the boss didn’t smile at me … I do all the work, but they get all the credit..” You know? So a lot of jealousy in office situations. Even in Dharma context. “I drove the high lama around.” And then everybody else goes, “Ohhh, look at them, they’re so arrogant about it, I should be able to drive the high lama around, they shouldn’t be allowed to, look at them they’re such disgusting people.” So we get so jealous…
I mean, I even remember around my teacher people would get jealous of the person who brought in the tea. It’s like, “He asked me to bring the tea, get out of here … I’m bring the tea, you don’t get the privilege of bringing Rinpoche the tea … I’m working for the benefit of sentient beings, get out of here!” [Laughter]
This whole thing of jealousy, of just, “I want what I want when I want it and nobody else should be able to have it. And if they do have it, I have the right to take it away from them.” If they have a good reputation, I have the right to destroy it. If they have a relationship, I have the right to take the person away. If they get credit for something, I have the right to trash them and take the credit.
It’s really a very vicious mind. A snake is a good analogy for jealousy, isn’t it? I think even in the West don’t we associate snakes often with jealousy? Sometimes with anger. But we do with jealousy. So really, kind of, a horrible mind. “Unable to bear the wealth and excellence of others.” We sit there just with this evil mind that wants to criticize and pick faults and put others down. “They’re better than me, I can’t stand it.” You know? Some way to make our own selves feel good.
And even we harm others and take their goodness away from them, or trash their reputation—or kick them out of the driver’s seat and hijack the car… [Laughter] You know?—we still don’t feel good afterwards. We got what we wanted, but the way we got it doesn’t feel good.
We have to really watch this mind of jealousy and stop it when it starts to arise. Because it says, “it swiftly injects them with its cruel poison.” And that really is—I mean, that’s what a snake does, but that’s what jealousy does. I mean, we poison people’s relationships, we poison their qualities. So it’s really quite a detrimental mind that is against the basic Dharma values that we really hold precious.
For our own sakes, out of our own sense of integrity and self-respect we want to release this mind so that we can really live and follow the Dharma values that we cherish.
Venerable Thubten Chodron
Venerable Chodron emphasizes the practical application of Buddha’s teachings in our daily lives and is especially skilled at explaining them in ways easily understood and practiced by Westerners. She is well known for her warm, humorous, and lucid teachings. She was ordained as a Buddhist nun in 1977 by Kyabje Ling Rinpoche in Dharamsala, India, and in 1986 she received bhikshuni (full) ordination in Taiwan. Read her full bio.