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How to love the people you dislike

How to love the people you dislike

A talk given at the Tai Pei Buddhist Centre, Singapore on November 22, 2003.

Transforming the judgmental mind

  • How the judgmental mind creates aversion and dissatisfaction.
  • Transforming the judgmental mind through Dharma practice.

Love and dislike 01 (download)

The kindness of others

  • Recognizing the kindness of others.
  • Sharing our spiritual practice with others by being an example of virtue.
  • Learning to forgive and transforming harm into the spiritual path.

Love and dislike 02 (download)

Appreciating the kindness of strangers

  • We are globally inter-dependent on strangers
  • Everything we have or use comes from the kindness and efforts of others
  • Learn to appreciate strangers with a heart of kindness

Love and dislike 03 (download)

Questions and answers, part 1

  • On forgiving and forgetting.
  • Parent-child relationships.
  • The existence of life forms when all sentient beings are enlightened.
  • Thanking others for their kindness.
  • What to do when others return kindness with hostility.

Love and dislike 04 (download)

Questions and answers, part 2

  • On karma catching up with us.
  • Distinguishing between preventing harm and revenge.

Love and dislike 05 (download)

Venerable Thubten Chodron

Venerable Chodron emphasizes the practical application of Buddha’s teachings in our daily lives and is especially skilled at explaining them in ways easily understood and practiced by Westerners. She is well known for her warm, humorous, and lucid teachings. She was ordained as a Buddhist nun in 1977 by Kyabje Ling Rinpoche in Dharamsala, India, and in 1986 she received bhikshuni (full) ordination in Taiwan. Read her full bio.

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