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Overcoming anger and frustration

Overcoming anger and frustration

A talk given at the PUB Auditorium in Singapore.

Meditation and motivation

  • Meditation
  • Setting a proper motivation for listening to the teaching

OAF 01: Motivation (download)

Anger and patience

  • The importance of setting a motivation
  • Definitions of anger and patience

OAF 02: Anger and patience (download)

Anger is not beneficial

  • Identifying the effects of anger
  • Determine whether being angry is ever positive

OAF 03: Anger not beneficial (download)

Antidotes to anger: Part 1

  • Owning our anger instead of blaming others
  • Rethinking self-preoccupation
  • Learning to care for ourselves and others in a wise way

OAF 04: Antidotes (download)

Antidotes to anger: Part 2

  • How we create our own suffering through our rigid, fixed opinions
  • Techniques to counter anger and the judgmental mind

OAF 05: Antidotes (download)

Questions and answers

  • Does parents’ attachment to their children hinder the children’s spiritual growth?
  • How do we handle a colleague who is impatient and demanding?
  • Can you talk about homosexuality?
  • Does karma play a part in our getting angry?
  • Getting angry with one’s girlfriend due to mistrust
  • Being enlisted in the army
  • Attachment to one’s partner
  • How can we help someone who is shuts herself off from the world and is constantly angry with the people around her?
  • Is it okay to show anger with good motivation?
  • How do you keep your patience with someone who drinks a lot and refuses to change?
  • How do you help someone who is manic depressive?
  • How do you help a person who is self-centered?
  • The importance of understanding how our actions can effect our future lives
  • How to deal with other people pushing their religions on you
  • Cloning

OAF 06: Q&A (download)

Conclusion and dedication

OAF 07: Conclusion and dedication (download)

Also refer to Section II of Open Heart, Clear Mind: Working Effectively with Emotions.

Venerable Thubten Chodron

Venerable Chodron emphasizes the practical application of Buddha’s teachings in our daily lives and is especially skilled at explaining them in ways easily understood and practiced by Westerners. She is well known for her warm, humorous, and lucid teachings. She was ordained as a Buddhist nun in 1977 by Kyabje Ling Rinpoche in Dharamsala, India, and in 1986 she received bhikshuni (full) ordination in Taiwan. Read her full bio.