Compassion through the dying process

A talk given with hospice nurse Lee Paton in Seattle, Washington on November 19, 1996.

Session one: Introduction

  • Introduction to speakers and the program
  • Instructions on breathing meditation and setting a motivation

Death and Dying: Introduction (download)

Compassion in living and dying

  • Meaning of compassion in Buddhist view
  • Looking at change through the process of dying and grieving
  • Four components of dying process (physical component of change)

Death and Dying: Session 1-1 (download)

Psychological and spiritual changes

  • Questioning and reviewing past life
  • Examining and letting go of attachments

Death and Dying: Session 1-2 (download)

What happens at the time of death?

  • The art of dying and the temptations
  • Supporting and caring for the dying
  • Being with what is

Death and Dying: Session 1-3 (download)

Questions and answers: Part 1

  • How long is it recommended for body to stay before cremation or burial process?
  • How do we know when a procedure is going to make the death more difficult or easier?
  • Does morphine interfere with spiritual process?
  • Is there a sense of bitterness on the part of the dying?

Death and Dying: Session 1 Q&A Part 1 (download)

Questions and answers: Part 2

  • For caretakers, how to handle things during a dying process?
  • What to do when family of the dying refused to acknowledge death and to discuss death process with the dying?
  • Ethical dilemma about ventilator to sustain the dying

Death and Dying: Session 1 Q&A Part 2 (download)

Session two: Nature of death, impermanence and change

  • The nature of death
  • People’s notions of “good” diseases, “bad” diseases, “good” deaths, “bad” deaths
  • Value of thinking about death and the significance of death for living a good life

Death and Dying: Session 2 (download)

Questions and answers: Part 1

  • How to clean up unfinished business
  • Compassion vs. co-dependence

Death and Dying: Session 2 Q&A Part 1 (download)

Questions and answers: Part 2

  • Discussion on nursing practices when caring for the terminally ill and the dying
  • In nursing profession–what constitutes compassion
  • The right-to-die movement
  • Wishes of the dying person–written vs. verbal agreement

Death and Dying: Session 2 Q&A Part 2 (download)

Session three: The nature of grief

  • What does grief mean to us
  • Working with our grief or with others in grief
  • How to transform grief

Death and Dying: Session 3 (download)

Questions and answers

  • Is grieving cyclical?
  • Grieving from guilt

Death and Dying: Session 3 Q&A Part 1 (download)

How to explain death to children

  • Explaining separation of body and consciousness
  • Developmental level considerations

Death and Dying: Session 3 Q&A Part 2 (download)

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